The “langue” of love is not only French, but to each individual it is very specific. It may be particular words or explicit actions that show one love, or it could be tangible gifts or activities together. Maybe your partner feels loved when you literally tell him or her “I love you,” or maybe they feel loved when you say “great job.” It’s possible your partner doesn’t need you to speak a word to feel loved; maybe they feel your love when you hug or kiss them. It could be that your partner feels most loved when you plan a romantic dinner or buy them their favorite perfume or cologne. People are as unique in their expressions of love as they are in the expressions of themselves. There is no right or wrong when expressing love; however, some people may receive love in a different manner from that in which you give love, so your awareness will allow you to fulfill your partner’s need for love in a way that will be most cherished.

Typically, we give to others that which we wish to receive. What we need to be attentive to is how our partner receives love. What things can we do for them, or provide them to make them feel our love? It may be as simple as asking them “What makes you feel loved?” Or, it may be watching their actions to establish when it appears they are gratified by our efforts to express love. You could try showing love in words, actions, or deeds. You could try giving them presents, or planning activities together. You can gauge their reaction, or simply ask them how they feel in the moment. Speaking love is fun in any language, but it’s best when it is received and felt by your partner. It’s fun to hear people speak other languages, but we only understand those in which we are fluent. Knowing your partners unique expression of love will allow you to connect on a deeper level.


The power of your thoughts to control your energy is always immediately available to you.  Your mind thinks in pictures, so any time you want to retain your brain, you can simply create pictures in your head. You can either recall actual times when you had the emotions you are seeking, or create a time of which you dream. By creating the dream you will then bring more of those thoughts into your conscious awareness, thereby actually bringing more of what you dream of into your reality.

Whatever you experience in your mind, your body thinks of as reality. Even if you are not experiencing something on the physical plain, your body believes to be real what you can conceive in your mind. It’s the old lemon trick. Think of biting into a sour lemon; your salivation response begins even without an actual lemon being present. Try it, really focus on biting into a big, sour, yellow lemon that makes your tongue cringe and your teeth sting. It’s as if it’s happening in your mouth by simply thinking of it in your head. Knowing the magnificent power of your photographic memory can allow you to create anything of which you dream!


“The heart is like a flower – unless it is open it cannot release its fragrance into the world.  The fragrance of the heart is made up of the qualities and virtues of our spirit.  Most of us have learned how to keep our heart closed in a world that would trample all over us if we let it.  Being open hearted today seems to require tremendous courage. It is a courage which comes only when we realise that no one can hurt us, no matter what they say or do. They may hurt our body, but if we have realised we are spirit, nothing outside can touch us, if we so decide. Little by little, practice opening your heart to those you think have hurt you. Realise it wasn’t them that hurt you, it was yourself. And it taught you not to trust and you closed your heart. A closed heart is in need of opening. And when you do, you will have begun to heal yourself.”

– Rajneesh Chandra Mohan (Osho – my rascal saint)

It is widely accepted that seven percent of communication is words, thirty eight percent is verbal (tone or pitch, speed, and volume), and a remarkable fifty five percent is nonverbal.  Nonverbal communication includes your physiology, your posture, breathing pace and depth, skin color (flushing, loss of color, glow, etc.), eye focus, and any minute movements throughout the body. All these nonverbal cues are processed not only by our conscious mind, but by our unconscious as well—that’s our intuition, our gut response. This video teaches you how to be savvy with the secrets of body language.

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